stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist audiobook

Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. These negative behaviors don’t happen once in a while they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member.

Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch.

However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling-in the extreme. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. A must read for all those hurt, confused, lonely, angry or just feeling plain lost being around someone suffering from BPD/NPD.People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Sadly such people are terribly ill and this book is all about not allowing your life to be defined by the volatile outbursts that form part of this devastating illness. Yet the book also fosters understanding of the deep feelings of emptiness, inabiiity to regulate emotions, thought instability, low self esteem - even suicidal thoughts - and dissociation fantasies experienced by sufferers of BPD/NPD. Yes, the author’s primary empathy is directed towards the caregiver since such individuals are her target readership.

Have you ever felt like you’re going crazy in a close personal relationship on account of your kindness, care and vulnerability being weaponised against you in unpredictable torrents of abuse being directed against you by the person who appears to have the emotional maturity of a toddler? Their perfectionist dissection of your faults hurled at you from behind a wall of anger that repels any right of reply? If so, then my sincere wish is you will feel as I did reading this book, with wells of hope rising drinking in the truths dripping from every page of this deeply insightful, yet empathic book.

Stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist audiobook